I’m a single lizard, so some may balk at the topic that I’m bringing up today because of that. But I’d like to remind people that sometimes puzzles are easier to solve from the outside looking in, and getting a perspective from someone emotionally uninvolved can be a fantastic positive step. So I’d like to ask for the patience of my frens reading this when I delve into the topic of marriage from an outsider’s perspective.
They say that marriage is all about communication, and while it’s true that a healthy marriage will have good communication, that’s not all there is to it. In order to truly have a good marriage, you have to be able to meet your partner’s needs physically, spiritually, and emotionally. When I say that you must meet your partner’s physical needs, you may think that it’s time to call the horn’t patrol on the ol’ Archbishop, but bear with me, for that’s only one type of need that I’m talking about. Physical needs also include taking care of them when they’re sick, making sure they get good rest when they’re weary, and making sure they get good nutrition and exercise. Helping your husband or wife stay physically well will go a long way toward keeping your marriage afloat, and will help show that you care. Another set of needs that often get overlooked in marriage is the spiritual needs of your spouse. This should be more than just going to a weekly worship service together. While these services are important, just imagine if you only fed your husband or wife once a week. You’d hardly be healthy enough to do anything of value. We need to make sure that we’re praying and partaking in religious study throughout the week. A family that prays together will stay together! Last but not least, we need to make sure to meet the emotional needs of our partners. For men, women have a need to feel loved. I would highly recommend that male frens look up the 5 love languages and then determine which one applies most to your wife so that you can best show your affection for her. For women, men have a need to feel respected as much as you have a need to feel love. This need for respect can be filled by making sure you speak well to him, making sure to set aside time to do things together with him, and still making him feel wanted. I hope that frens can avoid the emotional death spiral of relationships, where a man who feels disrespected becomes unloving, and a woman who feels unloved becomes disrespectful.
Fanks for reading frens, I lubs you all!
Verse for the week: Malachi 2:15-16